Posted: September 17th, 2017
Dementia: the case of Alex
Mary Jo has been contacted by her maternal grandmother and asked to
come and visit so that they can talk about her grandmother’s concerns
about her second husband, Alex.
Mary Jo is a little apprehensive as Grandma has asked her at this stage not
to mention anything to her mother or to her two older brothers and their
[David, 33 years old, is the elder of Mary Jo’s two brothers; his wife is
Maria; they have two children: Jimmy, six years old, and Thomas, four
years old. Barry, the younger brother, is married to Anna; both are 30 and
they have only one child, Leah, three years old. Sadly Anna miscarried last
year but they are optimistic about having more children.]
Mary Jo is also aware that her own mother has not really accepted her
mother’s (Grandma’s) decision to marry Alex, a Mediterranean man, 12
years ago now, and eight years after her grandfather had died suddenly due
to an aortic aneurism. Mary Jo has always liked Alex as he is a jovial person
who clearly loves and respects her grandmother, often buying her jewellery
and other presents and very often fresh flowers. Mary Jo assumed that her
mum was grieving for her own father and that that got in the way of her
accepting her mother’s second marriage. Mary Jo’s mother had emphasised
how different the personalities of the two men were and explained that as
an only child she had always been her father’s ‘princess’. These thoughts
and more were going through Mary Jo’s mind as she travelled by train to
her grandmother’s home to stay overnight. She knew something was wrong
because Grandma had said, ‘You will understand because you are a nurse.’
Mary Jo was concerned that Alex’s ‘memory problems’ were getting worse
and was worried about how she could best help her grandmother.
Grandma met Mary Jo at the door; she was wearing a brace on her left arm
and clearly sporting a healing right ‘black eye’. Mary Jo couldn’t contain
herself and started quizzing her grandmother about what had happened.
Had Alex hit her? This was no good; how could she live with domestic
violence? Something had to be done! Mary Jo stopped when she realised
that her grandmother was just sitting softly weeping while she had gone on
Mary Jo suddenly saw herself as attacking and criticising the woman she
had come to help. She drew her breath and said, ‘Oh Grandma, I am so
sorry for how I have just behaved! I can see that you’ve been hurt, and
that has upset me because I love you. I’ll put my bag in the spare room,
check on Alex and we’ll meet in the kitchen and have a cuppa. Is that OK?’
Mary Jo’s grandmother nodded and took a few breaths to steady her crying.
Mary Jo was cross with herself for being so… She couldn’t find the words
but knew she would not have behaved that way if she had been at work.
Prompting questions, set 1
If you have been able to do this, share its elements with your fellow
students in the discussion forum.
What other information would be informative? What are the benefits of a
genogram in aged care?
she deal with the fact that she has promised not to talk to other family
In the kitchen
Mary Jo informed her grandmother (Matilda) that Alex was asleep in his
Mary Jo and Matilda did have a cuppa, with Mary Jo listening to what
Matilda said and allowing her to tell the story as she had experienced it.
Mary Jo also learnt that Matilda had put off approaching her granddaughter,
as she was still embarrassed that Alex had hit her and twisted her arm. It
was so out of character for him but it really had scared her, and she still
felt a bit on edge because it might happen again. She thought that it
related to his wanting a cigarette and her saying no because she didn’t
want to bother at the time. She was not able to distract him from the idea.
Her grandmother continued, ‘He got up to look for his smokes and spotted
them and then went to light one. But in his agitation, he tried to put the
match in his pyjama pocket when it was still alight. I was trying to stop him
from burning himself—thank God they were good cotton and not synthetic—
and God knows what he thought but he hit out at me and grabbed my arm.
Then when he saw me crying he was all ‘lovey dovey’ and not aware of
what had just happened!’
Mary Jo thought about the number of smokers who are admitted to hospital
but don’t get to smoke while they are there. She quietly wondered how
much crankiness and worse could be attributed to nicotine withdrawal.
Prompting questions, set 2
issue of unsafe smoking?
program what would be required?
Mary Jo and Matilda got into the flow of interacting and maintaining the
routine that had been pretty well established between Matilda and her
husband. Mary Jo was pleased to be able to prepare the meal her
grandmother had planned and observed her grandparents holding hands
while watching the TV together. Although Mary Jo offered, Matilda did not
accept any assistance with toileting or caring for Alex. Mary Jo was
mpressed with her grandmother’s ability to help Alex maintain the skills he
did have; she seemed to wind into her conversation with him the
suggestions and cues about what needed to be done or focused on. There
wasn’t that babying approach that Mary Jo had so often seen and
sometimes knew she resorted to at the hospital just to get the task done.
Later that evening Mary Jo and Matilda were able to spend time together
At this time Matilda revealed that their GP had suggested that she needed
to start thinking about putting Alex into residential care. This was her worst
fear as they had in fact made part of their marriage vows to care for each
other in their latter years. She did not deny that he had hit her but felt that
with more help and information she could do better.
The doctor had given Alex a definite diagnosis of dementia, and probably
Alzheimer’s disease. Matilda wanted to know whether the type of dementia
made any difference to what she should do. The doctor was also reluctant
to discuss how long this might go on for. Matilda understood that no one
had a crystal ball but felt that it would help her if she knew some of what
was in store and had some timeframe to work from. She was thinking of
visiting relatives in Holland before she got too old to manage such a trip but
didn’t know what was best to do.
Matilda said that she hadn’t properly answered the doctor’s questions about
Alex‘s incontinence because that would have just made things worse. She
explained that Alex had had some urinary incontinence for a year or more
but this had been mostly at night or he had just used the wrong place or
thing to urinate in. But over the past month he had been wetting himself
and was now occasionally incontinent of faeces as well.
Again Mary Jo disciplined herself from jumping in and answering the parts
of the questions she could answer. She was feeling that her grandmother
had a new level of trust in her and she wanted to live up to that trust.
Somehow it also really mattered to understand what her grandmother was
Their conversation extended beyond ‘Alex’s problems’ to Mary Jo’s learning
more about her own (and Alex’s) extended family in Europe and some
catching up about what Mary Jo was up to at work and in her rather inactive
Towards the end of the evening Mary Jo said that she felt that the
Alzheimer’s Association was the best source of information for her
grandmother and that she would be happy to go along with her and support
any steps or stages she chose along the way. When her grandma was ready
Mary Jo was also willing to approach the social worker and get the full
information about nursing home assessment and admission and what that
Prompting questions, set 3
and prognosis of the condition?
answer Matilda’s questions.
What resources and advice could be made available to Alex in his own
Matilda did explore the information and community resources available to
her and Alex. She found that the carers’ support group was very welcoming
and good at sharing helpful information.
The continence nurse specialist did an assessment and Alex was found to be
constipated, with some faecal overflow, and his dietary habits and exercise
regime were adjusted under her supervision.
Mary Jo became a regular visitor and support to her grandmother. The
range of topics that they discussed together expanded and sometimes even
surprised Mary Jo.
What you need to do to meet your learning outcomes
Explore these websites
Explore the following websites, which provide information about dementia.
Australian Government Department of Health and Ageing 2007, Dementia,
AIHW 2007, Dementia in Australia: national data analysis and development,
AIHW Cat. No. AGE 53, AIHW, Canberra,
Dementia Training Study Centres: http://www.dtsc.com.au/
Bridges-Webb, C & Wolk, J 2003, Care of patients with dementia in general
practice: guidelines, NSW Department of Health, Sydney,
Dementia Care Australia: http://www.dementiacareaustralia.com
Alzheimer’s Australia: http://www.alzheimers.org.au
Simons, LA, Simons, J, McCallum, J & Friedland, Y 2006, ‘Lifestyle factors and
risk of dementia: Dubbo study of elderly’, Medical Journal of Australia,
vol. 184, no. 2, January, pp. 68-70,
Department of Human Services, Victorian Government Health Information 2004,
A guide for assessing older people in hospitals, developed by the Centre for
Applied Gerontology, Bundoora Extended Care Centre, Northern Health,
This guide provides one of the major discussions in the field regarding the
pros and cons of assessments and other tools that are available.
Tameside Council, The single assessment process for older people, frequently
asked questions, http://www.tameside.gov.uk/sap.
This web resource about the single assessment process (SAP) was developed
by the Department of Health in the UK. It discusses different types of
assessment scales and social problems facing the older person.
Ministry of Health [NZ] and New Zealand Guidelines Group 2003, Best practice
evidence-based guideline summary, ‘Assessment of older people with complex
needs’, New Zealand Government,
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