Relationships

To what extent do you agree with the viewpoints of the author? How so and why? If you were asked to “enhance” the content of the article from the eyes of a social scientist, what other insights will you provide to help people maintain or improve the quality of their marital or long term relationships?

http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201112/are-you-the-right-mate

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In my opinion, this is a very good article. I agree on most of those viewpoints of the author. Relationship is a very complicate and no set rules how to make it perfect. It depends on two people to adjust themselves. It would take time between 9 months to 4 years (This is so true!). I saw so many couples they met each other in a very short period of time (around 6 months) and they decided to get married right away. Sorry to say this but most of those couples got divorced around the second years. I really like it when the author said marriage is not about finding the right person. In my opinion marriage is how two people agree to live together and trying to adjust themselves to create happiness in life together.

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For the other insights to help people maintain or improve the quality of marriage or long term relationship. This will be hard for me because I’ve never been in relationship before. But in my opinion, we have to know ourself first. Know what we would like to have in life and know who we are. And then after we know who we are so we can adjust or adapt ourself to the partner. More over we shouldn’t expect people to change too. People never change. We better accept who they are and the way their habits are too. Speak up is the key in my opinion. Some people never ever say what they think and what they feel. So those have built up the resentments. Speak up is like a request. This will make a couple to maintain and improve the relationship.